solitary oddness
Amy is off seeing Seb this weekend which leaves the Den of Iniquity feeling a little empty with just me rattling around inside it. It’s quite a pleasant thing to do every so often; there are shades of ‘who am I when I am simply me’ muddled up in it, but the rest is something of a mixed blessing. I may have a huuuuge bed to stretch out across the middle of but I’d rather have company in it ... besides, all my usual recipes are sized for two people 
.
Tomorrow should be fun, the most esteemable Lerb and I are off to explore another part of Leicester and hopefully eat delicious Japanese food in the same little resteraunt we found on our last visit – I’ve been printing maps to prevent location fail while I potter about the internet this evening.
I think I mentioned this a bit previously, I recently found myself at a feminist group for the first time and one of the things we were discussing was what we wanted from the group, what our aims were and the kind of environment we wanted to create - it got me thinking. What I wanted was something where how we were changing the world mattered more than if we were all marching in lockstep – definitely something a complete 180 from the odd policing of some online feminist communities re: who could participate and who was the enemy. I didn’t manage to articulate it to myself or anyone else particularly lucidly and succinctly which was why I was so pleased to find two very good posts online today on the same topic.
Zenobia at the bead shop asks a couple of questions on this topic then gives her own answers, Winter at text and the world then elaborates and gives her own perspective, talking a lot about focusing on the work over the identity and some damn good comments about centring and privilege – If you’ve any interest at all these would be very worthwhile things to read.
I need to go and finish getting my shit together for tomorrow, but before I go, Tobi at No Designation has written a piece on the use of the term ‘Tranny’ by cis people that’d be a damn good read for anyone.
[...] the piece Is ‘Tranny’ Offensive? by Tobi Hill-Meyer from a link in Weasel’s post solitary oddness over at the rather wonderfully-named Dreaming of Butterflies. Which I have at last added to my [...]